Planning for the Unimaginable

One of my readings this morning reminded me of a thought I had a day or two after my wife died unexpectedly:  “When their breath departs, they return to the earth; on that very day their plans perish.” (Psalm 146:4 NRSV).  She and I had made plans for my retirement.  She was already retired.  We had just figured out where we wanted to live after I retired in another year.  Then while playing Bridge one morning, she died suddenly because of a ruptured brain aneurysm.  That day all our plans perished too.

I had always feared something like that would happen to me.  For years I would tell my wife if ever she was going to be later than expected to please call me, because I am a worrier.   Fortunately, I had decided years earlier that there was no way I could protect her from the inevitable.  Since I had no control over that, the only thing I did have control over was making sure she knew I loved her.

On that morning, I saw her getting ready to leave from across the parking lot and I could have just waved good-bye.  I didn’t.  Instead I walked over to the car and waited while she rolled down the window.  Then I leaned in and said “I love you” and kissed her.

A popular singer has these lyrics in a song: “shower the people with love that you love, show them the way that you feel.”  There is no way to plan for the death of a loved one, but there is a way to make sure they know how you feel.  Tell them.

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Writer of Christian fiction whose first book "Memory Theft" delves into the impact an extortion scam has on a retired widower. For more information please check out
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1 Response to Planning for the Unimaginable

  1. This is so true. Whenever I see or talk to my children/grandchildren I tell them I love them.

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