I Met My Wife in My Former Church


A Gust of Grace blew into my life in November of 2009.  On that Sunday I visited my old home church and saw someone I had known over 20 years ago.   Seven months later we were married.

At the time I had tried a number of Christian on-line dating services, seeking to fill the void after my wife of seventeen years died suddenly from a burst brain aneurysm.  I felt sure I would find someone, but all I found through online dating was disappointment.  The ones I liked through emails I didn’t care for in person.  In each case, we each found we had nothing in common and nothing to talk about.  Computers can’t really measure all the ingredients for a successful relationship.

Cindy, on the other hand, was someone I had known and respected many years ago, a woman of strong character and transparent faith.  Her father was someone I had always looked up to, a man who studied and lived his faith.  She had suffered a traumatic loss like I had.   One of the first topics we had in common was our grief.  That topic, however, soon gave way to laughter and adventure as we tried and then became comfortable in a relationship.  One of her jokes early on was making the sound of a crash as she said “that’s the sound of me falling off the pedestal you just put me on.”  I had just paid her a compliment she felt was out of proportion to what she had done.   We quickly admitted our imperfections and became willing to pray regularly for God’s help in our relationship.

This pleasant development showed me once again the value of relying on a power greater than myself for the things I need.  As hard as I tried to manipulate my way into a happy relationship, it wasn’t until I gave up and turned back to the familiar that I found my heart’s desire.

About richrockwood

Writer of Christian fiction whose first book "Memory Theft" delves into the impact an extortion scam has on a retired widower. For more information please check out www.richrockwood.com
This entry was posted in Adaptability, Communication, Courage, Faithfulness, Focus, Gifts, Grace, Grief, Guidance, Happiness, Laughter, Letting Go, Life, love, mercy, On Line Dating, Perspective, Principles, Priorities, Providence, relationships, Sense of Humor, Trust, Values, Wisdom and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s